Thursday, January 25, 2018

Party Food (2)

沙茶牛肉串
  • 牛肉切成薄片,用生抽、淀粉、油腌 >2h,用牙签串好。
  • 串好的牛肉串用中火两面煎至变色即可。
  •  沙茶酱加糖、醋(可以用波萝罐头代替)调成汁煮开,放入已煎好的牛肉串,关火。

煎好没有加汁的肉串可以在party前准备好,party的当天煮汁浇上,冷热皆宜。没加汁的肉串如果冰冻在freeze ziplock bag里,,可保存两个星期。



烤三尖牛肉
  • Costco Tri-tip roast / 三尖牛肉两块,大约 5 磅。洗净,擦干水。 用针扎很多洞,方便入味。。
  • 用盐(3/4 - 1 小匙)均匀地抹一遍。然后抹上 2 大匙淡酱油和 2 大匙清酒,最后用 1/4 杯 Old Bay Seasoning抹遍。 放入zip bag,放冰箱冷藏 24-48 小时
  • 烤箱预热到 400 F 度。
  • 铁锅烧热,把牛肉两面煎成棕色。Medium rare - 大约每面煎 5-6 分钟;well done - 7-8 分钟。
  • 铁锅直接入烤箱,敞开着烤 20 分钟。
  • 牛肉取出,再用一张锡箔纸把肉和锅捂严20分钟。
  • 肉取出切薄片,最后把锅里的汁浇上。




八宝饭

烤年糕

烤麸

五香牛肉








Tuesday, January 16, 2018

The Giver Quartet - by Lois Lowry

~ ~  一年多之前写的东西,今天才又翻出来。还是意犹未尽,但总得有个了结。 ~ ~



先前好友向我推荐了一本书叫 The Giver,是曾获 Newbery 儿童文学奖的一部超越儿童的人文科幻小说。回家问了儿子,他说这其实是一套四部曲,他不光已经看完了 The Giver,而且第二本也看过了,都挺有意思。双重推荐,让我兴趣陡涨,儿子立刻开心地说他不介意陪我再读一遍前两本,然后我们可以一起完成四部曲!

正中下怀。上一次我们一起读 Wonder 还是一年多前。那时候我们每天晚上睡前,他读一章,我读一章,妹妹在一旁听书,很是享受。那样美好的时光让我们都很怀念。

于是马上从图书馆同时借了纸质书和音响书,儿子在学校读纸质书,我在每天上下班的路上听音响书,还约定等读完整套书之后,各自写个短评。

听书的时光很美好。小说写的引人入胜,朗读者也绘声绘色,不像前一本 nonfiction 的诵读者,催得我想睡觉。每天往返近两个钟头的车程不再漫长,一天就能听好几章,一个多星期就听完一本。儿子的进度基本和我一样,看来每天也至少泡了一两个小时进去。回到家来,我们时不时聊一聊故事的进展,作者的意图,对接下来情节的猜测。要是儿子读到前面去了,他还小心翼翼金口紧闭地绝不给我剧透。

转眼,四本书都读完了。这部松散的四部曲,前三个故事基本各自为政,略有交集但大体平行发展,直到第四部所有人物才在同一个时空里相遇,让每一个故事都有所了结。个人感觉第一本和第四本的最后部分写得最好。开头构思巧妙新意十足,讲述了一个人尽其职、物尽其用、夜不闭户、丰衣足食的理想社会,然而按需分配、诚实守信、幼有所教、壮有所用、老有所终的背后却有着人们根本不再介意觉察的黑暗和人性的遗失。故事最后大结局揭开悬念时,不光让人恍然大悟痛快淋漓,也会有惊讶反思之后带来的沉重的心灵冲击。中间的故事略显冗长,却是通向最后结局的心理和逻辑的台阶,也不能跳过。书作者Lois Lowry 很善于铺垫背景,而且耐心地把悬念藏在平平淡淡的背景里,以至于前面有时让人觉得情节有点拖沓。但是知道了她的这个构架特点,也就知道要耐下性子来等待每本书最后的高潮和亮点。

儿子喜欢读书,却总是懒得写书评。每每学校老师布置的书评作业,也常常让他颇为头疼。这次既然答应了妈妈,总还算写了几行履行承诺。我知道他脑子里的东西比写出来的多得多,茶壶的口还是要慢慢拓宽才行。

先是儿子的版本:

The Giver series' theme is about bravery and courage. The first book, The Giver, tells us that anyone can change anything as Jonas brings back the memories of pain, color, and many other thing that have been lost. When the sequel, the Gathering Blue, comes in telling us about a different community starring Kira, it tells us that everyone has a gift even if they also have some part that they aren't so good at. The book Messenger is about Matty (a.k.a Matt from Gathering Blue) in the Village. It tells us to persevere and to sacrifice. You will catch a glimpse of Jonas in Messenger.

As the first three books of the Giver series tell us about Jonas, Kira, and Matty, Son "glues" all the characters together. Son is about a young woman named Claire, who had her baby, Gabe, stolen away from her. She set off an adventure to find her son. She's willing to do anything just to find her son, even if Evil had to take away her youth. As the end of the story, Claire found Jonas to help her and Gabe find each other. Finally, Gabe overcame Evil so that his mom's youth returned to her.


接下来是妈妈写的几句。感想有,但是用英文表达还是太痛苦了,词不达意,肯定还有好多错,但是既然是约定,还是尽力而为吧。

These are books about imaginary worlds. The world could be as technically advanced as the community where Jonas, Claire and Gabe are from (The Giver), or as wildly primitive as the tribe where Kira and Matt lived (Gathering Blue), or as purely joyful as the village where all of them finally end up to (Son).

Although the idealistic community and the tribe look quite different, surprisingly you will find one principle in common -- everyone has a gift, everyone must be useful, so each person's gift must be used in the best way. It sounds like a reasonable principle, which will lead to a highly organized and efficient society. An ideal communist society would be like that. But you may sense there is something wrong. What is it? The Giver reveals the dark side in the second half of the book, while “Gathering Blue” exposes the cruelness at the very beginning -- in such communities anyone who is "useless" or ineffective will be discarded and destroyed in a certain way because they are against the “efficiency” and "perfectness".   

What else against the “efficiency”? The efficiency is all about survival, no matter for more complicate or more simple forms of life. But as a human being, there are also other essential things for life – free will and love, which are both defined as "meaningless" in the book of The Giver, as well as humanity, the willingness and capability to accept the disables and all the vulnerable groups. 

Why does an individual need free will to make choices?

"When they have choices, people make mistakes and bad choices", agreed by the people who lived in the “ideal” community.

But when everything is assigned and fully prepared for you - like the way what a baby receives, the whole meaning of life as a human being starts fading away.

Same thing for love. Jonas asked his parents "do you love me?" They told him this word is not accurate and specified. They take care of him, they guide him, they feel proud of his achievements, but the word "love" is something useless and meaningless...  

Until a mom named Claire traced back and found her own baby, the natural love is re-discovered. The natural bonding between a mom and her baby once revealed, Claire found this strange and confusing feeling, which has been controlled and taken away from other moms in her community, is inevitable.  In “Son”, the last book of the quartet, she eventually understood that strange while powerful feeling is called love. And yes, we see the power of love.

These are also books about desire and greed. Of course, we don't live only with what we need. Above our needs, there are desires, which is the driving force for the progress of human history and the source of joys. But what do we trade for our desires? When we don't have anything else, do we trade away our deep self, our most precious characters? As the Community in The Giver realized the powder of desire and its dangerous possibility to lead to greed, the desire, as well as the right of choice, was taken away from all the people. Indeed, pain was removed, but with the cost of joys. In the book of Son, the conflict and wrestling between human's desire and integrity was fully displayed. 


陆陆续续和儿子一起读了四本书了,另外三本是 The One and only Ivan, Wonder Masterminds。前两本书讲得都是关于友情、善良和勇气,故事很感人,看到最后我俩泪水涟涟。Wonder 甚至被誉为每个五年级孩子必读的好书。顺带的,365 Days of Wonder 也成了儿子的最爱。The Giver Masterminds 虽然属于中学生读物,但却在深层里探求了社会结构,社会发展,人性本质和人性需求等复杂问题,不同年龄会读出不同的意味。

从头到尾一起读过书就是不一样,交流起来更加心领神会,也让我更清晰地看到孩子的成长脉络。


Sunday, January 14, 2018

等到你成熟时,就会起变化 - 蔡澜

        关于写作,刚读了一篇蔡澜的文章,收在他《我决定活得有趣》一书里。




        蔡澜的确是一个口无遮拦的有趣老头儿,无论你认不认同他所说的,他的坦率洒脱自由令人羡慕,在现代社会是个稀物。

        这一篇关于写作的简单小文看似轻松调侃,实质却直抵精髓。不光可以拿来跟小朋友们分享,也让我在重新审视自己的写作时有所领悟。

        小朋友问我:我总不能填满那四百字的稿纸,不是太长,就是太短,怎么办?

        “这样吧。我回答,不如把那四百字分为四个部分,一个部分一百字。

        “你是不是开我的玩笑?小朋友恼了。

        “不,不,我是正经的。我说,文章结构,总有起、承、转、合,刚好是四段。

        “那不是太过刻板吗?小朋友不服气。

        “基本训练,总是刻板,所有基础,没有一样是有趣的。等到你成熟时,就会起变化。

        “怎样的变化?

        “起、承、转、合。我说,可以变成合、转、承、起。或者任何一个秩序都行,只要言之有物。

        小朋友说:我明白了。如果将放在最后,就变成了一个意外结局(surprise ending),等于你常说的棺材钉。

         “你真聪明,一点就会。我赞许。

         “那么每一段不必是一百字也行?小朋友还想确定一下。

         “那是打个比喻。我说,先解决你写得太长或太短的疑问。

         “但是有时还患这毛病呀!小朋友说。

         “那么,你宁愿写长一点。修改时,左删右删,文字更是简洁。

         “有时不知道要写些什么才好。

         “我也是一样呀。我说,所以要不停地观察人生,不断地把主题储藏起来。

         “有了主题有时也写不出呀!

         “那么你先要坐下来,坐到你写得出为止。这也是一种基本功,最枯燥了。写呀写呀,神来之笔就会出现。我说。

         小朋友不太相信,露出像我开始写的时候,不太相信前辈所讲的表情,我笑了。


        同一本书里,还有几篇给青年们的文章,也是深入浅出,颇为中肯,比如专注与热爱,方能在不同行业创造奇迹,教人如何择业,如何始于热情、精于钻研、而终于勤奋。

        蔡澜的洒脱不羁,有时被人看作哗众取宠、大嘴巴博眼球。他谈烟谈酒谈茶、谈玩儿谈吃谈性,谈书画谈友人,也谈他的电影制片工作。他爱说什么、爱写什么,是他的自由,我爱看什么,也是我的自由。我从小受不了一点烟味,不管是街头的劣质烟还是天价的雪茄,所以他关于烟的文章我一律无感,跳过便罢。至于吃喝玩乐声色犬马,匆匆浮掠,一笑了之,他都没有认真,我认真个什么?喜欢他讲的茶和酒的故事、书与画的妙趣、白描一般人物的剪影、电影棚里的波澜、世界各地的风土、人与人之间的情谊... 人生沉浮,难得一直保有真热度真性情。成熟之后,看人世云淡风轻,有些起了变化,而有些,却是从未改变。

 


Monday, January 1, 2018

人生十大奢侈品


        网上曾经一度疯传美国华盛顿邮报评选出了新世界排名前十位的奢侈品(The Washington post poll latest world 10 "luxury"),并列出了以下清单。本着负责任的态度,我试图找到原文考证,却一直寻不到可靠的出处。

        其实,有没有权威背书,与我并不重要。就像有些金句是不是某个名人说的,这个名人的为人是不是可以诠释他/她的所言,对某些人来说事关人品信誉影响力可信度,而我更关心这句话本身的意义和价值,是否颤动了我的心灵、提升了我的认知、开拓了我的思维、在我的内心生出共鸣。

        下面就是这个来历不明但打动我的人生十大奢侈品清单,中文和英文原本有些出入,我根据自己的理解更正了一下。

    —— 生命的觉醒开悟   the awakening and enlightenment of life

    —— 自由、喜悦、爱的心   a heart free joy of love

    —— 游走精神世界  gone through the spirit

    —— 回归大自然  return to nature

    —— 安稳平和的睡眠  safe and peaceful sleep

    —— 享受属于自己空间与时间的生活  enjoy their own space and time

    —— 牵手一个彼此深爱的灵魂伴侣  love soul mate with each other

    —— 真正懂你的知心好友  ever truly understand you

    —— 身体和内心的健康、精神的充实  healthy body and inner rich

    —— 点燃他人希望的精神特质  infected and ethos of the others


        这里不包括阳光空气水分,因为那是生物赖以生存的东西;不包括工作事业家庭,因为那也是人生的必需品。所谓奢侈品是我们渴望而难以企及、绝非必须但锦上添花的东西。这里没有一件有价的商品,没有一样可以度量的东西,所列的甚至都无一实用我们期望的伟大成就、改变世界的决心勇气和能力不在列,才华天赋也不在列。这里的所谓奢侈品其实想想平实简单,只是近在眼前却不一定抓得住的,但又是每一个普通人靠着心的修炼就有可能达到的境界。

        所幸,扪心自问,我拥有这个清单上的大多数。如此说来,我也算是个富有的人。人竭其一生,得不到圆满完美,但知道什么是我们所要追求的并走在追求的路上也已经足够幸福。